Woman Excluded From Christmas With In-Laws, Still Expected to Pack Husband's Luggage

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Mel Dawn
Dec 27, 2021 6:00 PM EST

There's a healthy amount of tension and drama in most extended families. You can't expect everyone to get along all the time. But there's a big difference between respectfully disagreeing about politics at the dinner table and being a stuck-up jerk for no reason. Redditor u/richnfamous353 turned to r/AmItheAsshole after her husband got mad at her for not packing his bags for a Christmas vacation that she wasn't even invited to. Sounds like only bags OP should be packing are her own. Redditors in the replies overwhelmingly agreed that she wasn't the a-hole, though many were very confused as to why she was still in a relationship one. Keep scrolling to read the whole story. 

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    Facial expression - Posted by u/richnfamous353 4 days ago 2 23 26 3 27 3 AITA for not packing my husband's bags so he could go spend Xmas with his family without me? Not the A-hole
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    Font - I (F30) have been with my husband Ted (M34) for 4 years and we got married 2 years ago. His family and I haven't really gotten along too well. They're rich and are all about image. I only see them on occasions but that's when the drama is at it's highest rate. Last Christmas Ted & I traveled to spend Xmas with them and it was awkward for some reason. After we went back to the hotel his mom sent me a list of all the things I've done wrong at her house like bringing wrong types of desserts
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    Font - mother inlaw only sent an invitation to Ted to spend xmas with family. He told me his mom didn't invite me because of my last year's "negative points" This year and would rather have just him there this year. I was flabbergasted I asked if he was actually considering going after his mom excluded me and he shrugged and said yes because he never spent xmas away from family his entire life and isn't "about to break the cycle now". He suggested I go out, invite Regina (my best friend) over or
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    Font - Yesterday Ted came home asking if his bags were ready since it was time to go. I said I don't know and he was stunned. he freaked out saying I knew he was going to travel to his hometown and I should've packed his bags like I always do. I admit that packing his bags is what I do but ONLY WHEN WE'RE TRAVELING TOGETHER and I figured since he was traveling on his own then he should pack them himself. He lost it saying I just caused him to be late and ruined all the (flight/hotel/other reserv
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    Font - He packed his bags in a rush and ended up forgetting most of the gifts he got for his family. He's now not speaking to me. AITA? ETA: I found out that it's not just my mother inlaw but father inlaw and Ted's brothers figured it would be best that I don't attend their xmas and instead go to my own family claiming they were giving me the options to decide and also they claimed they don't want to force me to be with them since we have some tension between us.
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    Rectangle - TheAxe11 · 4 days ago & 35 More Asshole Enthusiast [5] NTA - change the locks while he is at his parents and hire a divorce lawyer is what I would do if my wife did what your husband did 50.7k 5 Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow mer-shark · 4 days ago & 47 More Partassipant [3] Maybe she can send him divorce papers along with his own list of "negative points." -grown man unable to pack his own bags -refusal to defend wife from overbearing family -actually agrees to ridiculous
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    Font - UnApprovedActivities · 4 days ago 3 Asshole Aficionado [15] Claim she's "giving him options." 13.5k Reply Share ... DaelinB · 4 days ago I think what amazes me is that the family just needs time to "adapt" to each other... after four years. What are you adapting to, besides their atrocious manners...? Definitely NTA, and ridiculous at that. 4 8.2k Reply Share ...
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    Font - Norpu01 · 4 days ago S Partassipant [2] NTA. So let me get this straight, he is a grown up man who threw a tantrum because he had to do something himself. He is so in the wrong. 17.7k Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow SnooDoughnuts2846 · 4 days ago Asshole Aficionado [19] And then has the audacity to say OP is overreacting O 4 6.0k 3 Reply Share ...
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    Font - supermouse35 · 4 days ago Asshole Enthusiast [8] That part doesn't surprise me. In my experience, men think women are overreacting the moment they express any negative emotion, no matter how mild. I don't even have to raise my voice before the men in my family start accusing me of overreacting. 5.3k 5 Reply Share ...
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    Rectangle - likeahike · 4 days ago 2 3 & 17 More Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] NTA and why are you with this guy again? He wants to spend Christmas with his family, but you're his family now. He doesn't defend you when his mother makes rediculous demands and he should have. And he expects you to pack his bags like a good little housewife/ maid. It doesn't sound like he respects you, or you are even a priority to him. 17.2k Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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    Rectangle - Ma_Ma_Ma_My_Sharona · 4 days ago Partassipant [2] Pack your bags and be gone when he comes back. He is a tool. NTA. 1 9.1k Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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    Rectangle - yankdevil · 4 days ago & 9 More Partassipant [3] YTA. Staying married to this man when he clearly should be married to your mother-in-law is just an asshole move. Apologize when he gets back, get divorced and let those two lovebirds get on with their lives. 4 9.0k Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow pineapplecatexpress · 4 days ago YTA for making me snort hot coffee out my nose 3.3k Reply Share ...
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    Font - Academic-Panic · 4 days ago Asshole Aficionado [15] This. I cringe when I read posts like these because I assume the OP disregards the comments and stays married to the douche anyways. OP please listen to people on here. Your husband is a selfish tool and you'd be better off without him. 650 Reply Share ...
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    Font - SpeedBlitzX · 4 days ago · edited 4 days ago Asshole Aficionado [11] NTA If I'm understanding things here correctly, your spouse was expecting you to pack his bags for a vacation you weren't invited to. As well as he just expected you to pack his stuff for him for some reason? Why is he being so irresponsible and dependent? He's not a child who's going out on their very first vacation, he's supposed to be an adult. 3.6k Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - richnfamous353 OP · 4 days ago Correct. He said since I always pack our bags whenever we travel together then he assumed I'd get his bags ready this time as well. It is a lot of work since he planned to stay for long to catch up with distant relatives. His family worry too much about appearance and a perfect holiday thus I got uninvited. Apparently I looked "out of place" and not too classy compared to other guests. 3.5k Reply Share ...
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    Font - RatBreakfast · 4 days ago The "Kapeesh" alone (in that situation) would've initiated my fight or flight mode. He sounds like a real prize asshole, along with the rest of his family. NTA and from my experience, around year 4 is when some partners tend to show their true colors. Please do not put up with being treated like this, you deserve better. They did you a favor by not inviting you. 2.5k Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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    Rectangle - thesmilingmercenary · 4 days ago Yeah, who the hell still uses "Kapeesh"? Trying to sound like a mob boss, but coming off more like a toddler that didn't get his dinosaur- shaped chicken nuggets. 622 Reply Share ...
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